Way to be Happy?

Memiliki sifat "Perfeksionis" dulu sering kali membuat saya cenderung sulit untuk memutuskan beberapa hal dalam kehidupan.

Sebagian itu juga karena takut membuat kesalahan. Padahal membuat kesalahan itu biasa, merupakan bagian dari suatu pembelajaran.

Untuk mengatasinya, saya diajarkan Cognitive Behavioural Theraphy (CBT) dalam sebuah konseling.

Metode ini mengajarkan pemikiran logika dapat digunakan untuk mengidentifikasi dan membuang keyakinan palsu yang mengarah pada emosi destruktif.

Emosi destruktif ini dalam jangka waktu yang lama, jika tidak terurai bisa memberikan kontribusi pada gangguan kecemasan dan depresi.

Contohnya: Seseorang memutuskan untuk pindah kerja, lamar kerja, dan akhirnya mendapatkan kerjaan baru.

Sebelum pekerjaan baru itu dimulai, timbul pemikiran seperti:
- Bagaimana jika tidak bisa mengerjakan tugas di tempat yang baru?
- Bagaimana jika atasan kurang bersahabat?
- Bagaimana jika tidak bisa beradaptasi dengan lingkungan baru?

Daftar pertanyaan tersebut bisa terus bertambah, sehingga bisa membuat orang tersebut cemas.

Untuk mengatasinya, menggantikan pertanyaan dengan solusi:
- Jika tidak bisa mengerjakan tugas, maka masih ada waktu tiga bulan masa percobaan untuk belajar.
- Atasan yang kurang bersahabat mungkin karena tugas tidak diselesaikan sesuai standar. Kalau bekerja sesuai standar, Atasan pasti senang.
- Beradaptasi, memiliki waktu tiga bulan untuk mengenal kolega-kolega, membangun relasi melalui makan siang bersama.

Konon Aspek Fundamental tertentu dari CBT teridentifikasi berasal dari Tradisi Filosofi Kuno, khususnya Stoisisme.

Terdapat satu buku Berbahasa Indonesia yang menjelaskan Stoisisme dengan gamblang dan ringan berjudul "Filosofi Teras" - karya Henry Manampiring, penerbit Gramedia.

Buku ini sangat direkomendasikan, jika teman-teman ingin belajar mengendalikan Emosi destruktif - sehingga hidup lebih BAHAGIA.

"You can't always be perfect".

Itu adalah teguran dari seorang counselor kepada saya dalam sebuah konseling.

Sebagai seorang peserta penerima Beasiswa S2 waktu itu, kami diberikan privilege untuk konseling.

Konseling tersebut untuk membantu kami bisa menetap di Sydney dan beradaptasi di perkuliahan dengan baik.

Dua bulan setelah perkuliahan, saya mendapatkan jadwal konseling. Dikarenakan saya merasa kesulitan dengan satu mata kuliah wajib di Faculty Economics & Commerce, yakni Accounting saya langsung curhat.

"What score did you get in the Mid Semester?" - tanya si counselor. "I got 75 for the subject" - jawab saya.

Ibu counselor hanya tersenyum dan berkata, "That's a very good score, what did you expect?".

Sebagai seorang perfeksionis saya punya standar atas nilai yang harus saya capai.

Namun saya lupa, dengan background pendidikan S1 - Sistem Informasi, tentu saja Accounting adalah hal baru buat saya.

Jawaban selanjutnya dari Ibu Counselor, "Definitely you don't have any problems with your academic. You can't always be perfect, you just need to make progress".

Bertarget untuk mencapai suatu kesempurnaan itu baik, tetapi jangan sampai itu membuat kita tidak bisa menerima kesalahan ataupun menghindari pembelajaran.

Hal tersebut juga kadang bisa mendatangkan stress, karena tidak bisa menerima kelemahan diri kita sendiri.

Memang tidak mudah bagi saya untuk merubah mindset, belajar untuk menerima ketidaksempurnaan, menerima bahwa tidak ada kata gagal, yang ada hanyalah pembelajaran - artinya saya harus coba sekali lagi.

You try, you fail.
You try, you fail.
The real failure is when you stop trying!

PS: In the light of May - Mental Awareness Month.

Kegunaan Hewan Peliharaan.

Hewan peliharaan bisa sangat membantu mengurangi Tingkat Stress, serta meningkatkan Hormon Oxytocin.

Hormon ini juga dikenal dengan Hormon Cinta, sehingga kita punya perasaan cinta, kasih sayang, emosi yang baik, dan keterikatan antar manusia.

Berikut beberapa cara hewan peliharaan membantu kesehatan mental Anda:

1. Hewan peliharaan dapat membantu meningkatkan produktivitas, di mana pun Anda bekerja. Ketika seekor anjing bergabung dalam pertemuan virtual, anggota kelompok memberi peringkat yang lebih tinggi kepada rekan satu timnya dalam hal kepercayaan, kohesi tim, dan persahabatan.

2. Hewan peliharaan membantu mengelola kecemasan. Sekarang lebih dari sebelumnya, banyak orang merasa cemas atau berjuang dengan kesehatan mental. Hewan peliharaan memberikan persahabatan dan dukungan.

3. Hewan peliharaan dapat membantu Anda menjadi lebih aktif. Mereka memberi Anda alasan untuk keluar, mencari udara segar dan aktif, yang terbukti meningkatkan mood, tidur, dan kesehatan mental Anda.

4. Hewan peliharaan memberikan rasa kebersamaan. Ikatan dengan hewan peliharaan membantu Anda untuk tidak merasa sendirian. Ketika pemilik melihat, menyentuh, mendengar, atau berbicara dengan hewan pendamping mereka, itu membawa rasa niat baik, kegembiraan, pengasuhan, dan kebahagiaan.

Source: www.heart.org

PS: saya yang tidak pernah suka dengan hewan peliharaan, sekarang jadi suka anjing.

Berhenti Sejenak dan Nikmati.

Empat atau lima kali seminggu saya melewati jalan ini pada waktu mau ke Gym. Setiap kali lewat ya biasa aja.

Namun hari ini saya memutuskan untuk berjalan lebih pelan, mecoba melihat ke sekelilingnya.

Saya tidak menyangka, ternyata banyak hal-hal yang indah di sepanjang perjalanan, hanya saya tidak pernah mengambil waktu untuk menolehnya.

Terkadang kita berjalan terlalu buru-buru, dan terlalu cepat sehingga kita melewatkan banyak hal-hal yang baik dalam hidup kita.

Terkadang kita lupa untuk berhenti sejenak untuk menikmati hal-hal yang indah di sekitar kita. Lupa untuk beristirahat sejenak untuk mengisi energi kembali.

Menjelang Libur Lebaran saya berharap sebentar lagi Teman-teman dapat berhenti sejenak dari kesibukan rutin, berkumpul-kumpul keluarga, menikmati waktu berkualitas dan disegarkan kembali.

Where is your Ability Come from?

When you believe in your ability to achieve anything you want, that idea is not only embedded in your subconscious, but also strengthens your belief.

When you believe in your own abilities, part of what you believe is the possibility of you drawing on the power of unlimited intelligence.

And because you believe you can do it, your conscious mind won't hesitate either. When the conscious mind is not resisting, the subconscious mind may send creative ideas to the conscious mind more easily.

Then once you can see that power getting stronger in your life, the easier it will be for you to act on that belief on a day-to-day basis.

Can you do it? You won't know the answer unless you let go of your defenses and believe that you can.

The belief also comes from the One who gave us the source of life. 😊🙏

So do you believe that you can do it?

Can you do multi-task?

"Apakah kamu bisa multi-task (mengerjakan beberapa hal dalam satu waktu)?"

Ini adalah pertanyaan yang sering ditanyakan pada saat dulu saya melakukan interview kandidat Auditor atau pada saat "performance feedback" dengan team.

Istilah ini sering kali dipakai untuk menunjukan kompetensi seorang auditor. Namun, apakah secara realita multi-task itu memungkinkan untuk direalisasikan?

Pada waktu dulu kuliah ada satu mata kuliah namanya "Sistem Operasi (Operating system)" - itu mempelajari seluk beluk cara kerja Sistem Operasi Komputer, seperti DOS, Linux, Windows dan sejenisnya.

Walaupun tampaknya Komputer itu menjalankan banyak aplikasi dalam satu waktu, sebenarnya memory di dalam prosesor itu terbagi-bagi kapasitasnya untuk memproses instruksi yang diberikan.

Alhasil proses setiap aplikasi itu menjadi lama. Otak manusia itu Ibarat Super Komputer, dan memiliki cara kerja yang mirip.

Para Psikolog dan Neuroscientist melalui penelitiannya menyatakan bahwa melakukan Multi-task akan menyebabkan otak lebih cepat lelah dan sering lupa.

Alih-alih para ahli menyarankan Pola Mindfulness - fokus pada satu pekerjaan untuk satu waktu. Cepat selesaikan, lalu beralih ke pekerjaan berikutnya.

Saya mencoba hasilnya lebih memuaskan dan lebih relax. Namun, tantangan terberatnya adalah apakah kita bisa tidak terganggu atau terdisrupsi oleh hal lain seperti bunyi telepon genggam, pesan dari sosial media?

Apa pengalamanmu mengenai Multi-tasking?

Believe in Yourself!

Kemaren Sabtu seorang mantan murid sekolah kami mengirimkan pesan kepada saya.

"Ms I need your advice and Insight".

"Yes, (sebut saja namanya 'Mawar')

Mawar sudah pindah dari sekolah tempat saya melayani, ke Sekolah International dekat rumah barunya di Sentul.

"Aku lagi ngerjain suatu project sekolah, dan project itu diperkirakan berhubungan dengan Jurusan yang akan dipilih pada waktu kuliah".

"Okay, lalu apa masalahnya", jawab saya.

"Saya bingung mau kuliah apa, Ms lihat aku cocoknya jadi apa?"

"Bukannnya waktu itu kamu pernah cerita sama Ms, kamu ingin masuk Jurusan Hukum?", kata saya.

"Tapi aku merasa orang-orang yang mengambil jurusan Hukum itu pinter banget, aku merasa belum sampai ke situ, Ms".

This is my next reply:
"Sometimes it is not the Smartest who can achieve the highest career - That's the fact".
"As long as we have the strong will to learn and improve, then we can achieve the level that we want - That's what I believe".
(diam sesaat)

"So do you believe in yourself? believe that you can achieve what you want in the future?" - lanjut saya.

"Yes Ms".

"Then I believe you will get there" - Tutup saya.

"Thanks for you help, ms".

Don't be pushed by Your problems; Be led by Your Dreams. - Unknown.
(Jangan termotivasi karena permasalahan; Pimpin dirimu dengan Mimpimu).

Knowledge is Power?

This phrase was first coined by Sir Francis Bacon (1561-1626), was an English philosopher and statesman who served as Attorney General and as Lord Chancellor of England.

Sir Francis meant by this phrase that having and sharing of knowledge is the foundation of reputation and influence, because it all begins with knowledge.

But is it true that "Knowledge is Power"?

Since my school days I like to read, I feel that I can explore a lot of understanding and knowledge through reading.

But one time when I was in college, a problem occurred, sometimes I quickly panicked.

Then my sister said "ah it's useless, you read a lot, you just encounter this problem, you immediately want to give up. It's useless you know a lot".

Similarly when I re-started my career in the Insurance industry, I wanted to learn everything first until I feel confident, took a lot of training.

However, my leader Gui Mei rebuked, "You can't just keep learning, but you must also practice and work on it if you want the results."

Power is Power. The ability to Act from what is known is more Powerful.

Generally people only knowing, but do not have the ability to act on it.

"Faith without works is dead". - Put your knowledge into action.

Yes, Knowledge is Power, but acting on your Knowledge is Much More Powerful.

The Power of Mindset.

Many may not know who Edwin C. Barnes was, but many people must have heard of Thomas A. Edison.

When he got off the freight train in West Orange, New Jersey, Barnes might look like a bum, but he had the mindset of a King.

Despite being penniless and not acquainted with the inventor, Barnes came to Edison's Office with a passionate desire to 'cooperate', NOT 'work for' Edison.

There were two problems: He didn't know Edison, and he didn't have the money to buy a train ticket to Edison's lab in West Orange, New Jersey.

Problems like these are enough to make people generally back off from pursuing a Desire or a Dream.

Barnes did not get a partnership with Edison in the first interview. He got the opportunity to work in Edison's office for low wages.

Month after month. Although no progress brought him closer to his Dream, Barnes continued to strengthen his desire to become Edison's business partner.

It took five years before this GREAT opportunity he had been looking for appeared before his eyes.

Edison had just finished perfecting a new office equipment known as the Dictation Machine. Salespeople were unenthusiastic and unsure of how to sell this tool.

Barnes knew he could sell the Dictation Machine. He offered himself to Edison, and was given the opportunity by the Inventor.

He managed to sell the machine, and gained big Success. Then Edison gave him a contract to distribute and market the tool throughout America.

He managed to become Edison's partner and made a big profit.

Besides that he achieved something greater, He proved that the power of mindset and persistence can bring success.

"When someone is really ready for something, something will come." - (quoted from the book "Think and Grow Rich" - Napoleon Hill)

Tune in to Channel P.

In my association I sometimes feel uncomfortable with a handful of people.

If there is such a person in an event that I am attending, it can sometimes make the mood go away. Or if there is an important event, and those people are present I will try to avoid. That sometimes make me have to pass on some important meetings.

One day I had a chance to talk to a leader that I respect, he advised, "You should focus on the positive things of that person, if he can be in that position, apart from things you don't like, there must be positive points that you can learn from the respective person".

That advice made me realised, why should I focus on the negatives of these people, thus avoiding me from taking the positives out of them.

That avoidance also cost myself, no chance to participate in an important event I was supposed to attend for building my network.

"Tune in to Channel P, The good thoughts Station. Find Qualities to like and admire in a person, not things to dislike. Think Positive Thoughts towards people - and get positive results"- from the book "The Magic of thinking Big" by David Schwartz.

Start Small.

If it is mentioned "Ingvar Kamprad" - probably many do not know who this figure is. However, if it is called IKEA probably almost everyone knows it is the name of the world's leading Furniture Company, which originated from Sweden.

The founder of this IKEA company is Ingvar Kamprad. Actually IKEA is an abbreviation of the name (I)ngvar (K)amprad who was born on a family farm named (E)lmtaryd, and near the village of (A)gunnaryd.

Ingvar Kamprad started his business by selling matches at the age of five. At the age of seven, he started selling to his neighbors by bicycle.

Then they started selling fish, Christmas tree decorations, pens and pencils. When he was 17, his father gave him a cash prize for completing his studies.

IKEA was founded in 1943 by selling the kitchen table, which made by his Uncle Ernst. Then in 1948, Kamprad expanded its production by venturing into the Furniture Industry. Then began to spread to countries in the world.

From this story, I learned that something big starts from small. Not infrequently I can't wait to achieve something big, but don't want to do the "Homework" just yet. Of course with such an attitude that great things will never be achieved.

There is a saying "Whoever is faithful in small things, he will also be faithful in big things". This means that if we do small things seriously, that attitude will be judged and people will trust us more. From there it will produce bigger jobs.

"A thousand miles of journey always begin with one step". - Lao Tzu

What do you think?

Turn Failure into Opportunity.

Post-it-Note is a small piece of paper that is usually affixed to a document as a marker or reminder.

The invention of Post-it-Note started with a failed product. In 1968 Dr. Spencer Silver, a scientist at the 3M company, is trying to develop a super-strong adhesive.

However, he accidentally created an adhesive that comes off easily and can be reusable.

For 5 years, He tried to convince this discovery in the company, but gained low support.

It wasn't until 1974 that his colleague, Art Fry, came up with the idea of using the adhesive to attach small pieces of paper to his Hymn book as markers.

In 1977 the 3M Company tried to market a product that was then called "Press 'N Peel" in four cities in America, but failed.

A year later 3M gave free product samples to customers in Boise, Idaho, 94% of those users were satisfied and said they would buy the product.

In 1979 the product was sold under the name "Post-its", and sold throughout America on April 6, 1980. A year later it was launched in Canada and in European countries.

Until now "Post-its" is one of the most widely used office tools.

Sometimes we see a failure as the end. If seen from this story, sometimes failure can be a new opportunity to something bigger.

In addition, Post-Its takes more than 10 years to succeed, so success always need a process.

Success is Not Instant, Embrace the Journey.

The Gift of Pain.

It is human nature, we do not like painful things. As much as possible we avoid experiencing pain in both physically and mentally.

Sometimes we think, maybe it would be better if there is no pain in this life. Pain only brings suffering.

Dr Paul Brand, a British doctor, who became a pioneer in surgery on leprosy. Together with his wife, Margareth Brand, an ophthalmologist - became a missionary in the medical field in India, to treat leprosy sufferers.

Dr Brand stated, "Thanks God for the pain, If only I could give one gift to my leprosy patients, that gift would be Pain".

Dr. Brand's view emerged after he learned that leprosy attacks and kills the nerves on the surface of our bodies, so the sufferer does not feel pain, even though his body parts are bitten by pests or exposed to other sharp objects.

This often causes lepers to become stupefied. Pain exists, aims to give a signal to avoid danger and survive. The problem is sometimes the signal can't tell if it's a real danger or just imagination. This is what makes us overreact.

Lesson Learned: Everything that God has given has a purpose, only if we want to embrace it and learn to control it for the sake of our lives.

If you would like to watch Dr Paul's Story - The Gift of Pain, please follow the link below:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXS2oTFE7Ho

Merajut Impian.

Drama "Layangan Putus" yang akhir-akhir ini viral membuat saya tergelitik untuk memposting tulisan ini.

Jujur saya tidak menonton film itu, hanya baca sinopsis, nonton cuplikan dan meme yang viral terutama tentang "It's my dream Mas, not hers".

Terlepas dari semua prahara rumah tangga, saya hanya ingin meng-highlight mengenai DREAM, Impian.

Mungkin hampir semua orang punya Impian, atau bisa disebut dengan cita-cita, keinginan.

Sering kali mendengar kalimat:
"Coba saya punya fasilitas seperti ..., saya pasti bisa ..."
"Mungkin kalau saya dapat dukungan ..., saya bisa mewujudkan ..."
"Jika saja saya tidak ada halangan ..., hal itu pasti sudah saya dapatkan."
dan seterusnya, dan seterusnya.

Mungkin harus ditekankan "Your dream is Your responsibility", stop menyalahkan keadaan, orang lain dan faktor eksternal lainnya atas sesuatu yang belum kamu capai.

Lebih baik tanyakan "Apa yang dapat saya lakukan untuk mencapai ..." - "Success depends on you asking the right questions".

Tidak selalu mudah, tidak selalu mulus, jika sudah mencoba walau belum berhasil, kita mendapat pembelajaran. Keep Trying, Keep Learning & Keep Improving.

Ada pepatah cina yang mengatakan "长的漂亮很重要, 活的漂亮更重要" (read: Zhang de piàoliang hěn zhòngyào, huó de piàoliang gèng zhòngyào), artinya It's important to look beautiful, and it's more important to live beautifully.

Ps: the Photo was taken at Capadocia, April 2013.

The Fear of Fear.

Decades ago, scientists experimented in the Arizona Desert, they built "Biosphere 2" - A large steel and glass enclosure with purified air, clean water, nutrient-rich soil, and lots of natural light.

It is intended to provide ideal living conditions for the flora and fauna in it.

The conditions worked in several ways but faced absolute failure in one.

Many times when the trees within the Biosphere reached a certain height, they would simply fall over.

At first, the phenomenon confused scientists. Eventually, they realised that the Biosphere lacked the most important element needed for trees to grow which was Wind.

In the natural environment, the trees are blown by the wind. They respond to the pressure and shaking by growing stronger bark and deeper roots to increase their stability.

We waste a lot of time and energy trying to stay in our own cosy bubble Biosphere.

Sometimes we fear the pressures and challenges of change, but those pressures and challenges are the wind that makes us stronger.

Or on the other hand, many also choose to give up and withdraw.

Then which one would you choose?

"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein.

Boost Your Confidence in 5 Minutes.

There are times when we lose ourselves, even though we already know what to do.

This sometimes happens when you want to do a presentation, facing a job interview or hard exams.

If you are a fan of the Grey's Anatomy series, maybe you remember a scene where Amelia Shepherd before going into the Operating Room to perform surgery on her mentor dr. Herman, you can see the snippet below.

https://youtu.be/cdNDa-cUrtM

Amelia Shepherd did the "Super Hero" pose to build her confidence before the major surgery.

The "Super Hero" pose is a "High Power" pose consisting of standing tall, legs apart, chin up, hands at waist with elbows bent.

This "High Power" pose was first introduced by Amy Cuddy in 2010, stating that by doing the "High Power" Pose for 5 minutes it can increase Testoterone and decrease Cortisol levels.

After knowing this simple method, many times I applied it together with taking a deep breath and then exhaling, it feels like I can conquer the World.

It's worth trying and doesn't cost a penny.

"Fight until you can't fight anymore". - Amelia Shepperd

Mission Possible.

Sometimes in setting targets, many say has to be realistic.

After taking a deep thought, "What does Realistic mean in this context?" "Does it mean something that can be achieved?"

Or "Does it mean something that has been achieved by someone else before?"

Sometimes setting a Target that is too high is considered Unrealistic and we afraid that the Target cannot be achieved.

In 2017, Alex Honnold shocked the world when he became the first person to climb a ropeless rock (Free Solo) - a nearly 3,000 feets climb to the top of the Legendary National Park, Yosemite's El Capitan. Honnold's remarkable feat was the subject of the award-winning documentary Free Solo.

In the film Honnold is asked How he controls himself knowing that when he does Free Solo, his choice is Perfection or Death.

"People talk about trying to suppress fear," he replied. "I tried to look at it in a different way - I tried to expand my comfort zone by practicing the movement over and over again. I tried to feel the fear until it wasn't scary anymore."

Honnold's fear prompted him to put in some focused effort before committing to Free Solo. Making his fears productive was an important part of his training, and it propelled Honnold to the top of the mountain.

If we can stop viewing stress and fear as negative and instead see the potential benefits, we are in the process of changing our relationship with fear.

Remember that what makes the target realistic is the amount of effort and skill to achieve it.

So want to set realistic or Fantastic target?

"Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you". - John C. Maxwell

Walk away...

from arguments that lead you to anger.
Walk away from people who deliberately put you down.
Walk away from pleasing people who never see your worth.
Walk away from any thought that undermines your peace of mind.
Walk away from from judgmental people who do not know your struggle or what you've been through.
Walk away from your mistakes and fears, they don't determine your fate.
The more you walk away from things that poison your soul, the healthier you will be.

Sebuah Jalan

Aku menyadari ini setelah lama merasakan luka
Namun luka itu dapat menjadi sebuah jalan
Jalan untuk mengenal siapa Engkau Tuhanku

Tidak ada kehidupan tanpa tiupan angin
Angin harus bertiup, agar pohon dapat mengakar
dalam pada tanah sehingga tetap kokoh

Itulah sebabnya angin mengayunkan pohon
Itulan sebabnya angin mengayunkan kita semua
Supaya kami bersandar hanya pada-Mu
Supaya kami tidak mengandalkan kekuatan sendiri
Supaya iman kami bertumbuh menjadi kuat
untuk menjalani kehidupan bersama-Mu

Luka dapat menjadi sebuah jalan
Kesedihan dapat pula menjadi sebuah jalan
Jalan untuk lebih dekat kepada-Mu Tuhan

The Power of Vision

Florence Chadwick, American Women's Open Water Swimmer, set a goal to swim from Catalina Island to the California Coast, 20 Miles.

By 1951, she was already practicing. It was a cold day, the water was also cold, the air was foggy.

There were two ships following her. One ship brought a coach and her mother, who gives encouragement. The other boat brought a number of gunmen to keep the sharks from getting close to it.

It's not a happy situation, but she has a goal and a big desire to get it done.

He started swimming! Seven, eight, nine hours had passed, and the land was still nowhere to be seen. Twelve, thirteen, fourteen hours later still nowhere to be seen. Finally after fifteen hours of swimming, Florence returned to the boat saying "I can't go any further!".

Then Her Mom and her coach pulled her into the boat, and actually less than a mile after that they reached the California coast.

How do you think Florence feels? All the practice, all the energy, all the effort, she's just a little less to reach her Goal.

While on the mainland the reporters asked him "What happened?" Florence replied "If only I could see the Target, I would have succeeded!".

Fortunately Florence was not a Loser, she trained and tried again a few months later, and she managed to beat the Male Swimmer Record.

What's the difference? Despite the foggy, cold weather, surging waters, and threatening sharks, similar situation like before - she visualized the California Coast clearly, brushed aside any adversity and succeeded.

Having a goal alone is not enough to make someone successful in her endeavors, but visualizing and believing that she will succeed in achieving it is the key.

Are you sure about achieving your Goal?