Merajut Impian.

Drama "Layangan Putus" yang akhir-akhir ini viral membuat saya tergelitik untuk memposting tulisan ini.

Jujur saya tidak menonton film itu, hanya baca sinopsis, nonton cuplikan dan meme yang viral terutama tentang "It's my dream Mas, not hers".

Terlepas dari semua prahara rumah tangga, saya hanya ingin meng-highlight mengenai DREAM, Impian.

Mungkin hampir semua orang punya Impian, atau bisa disebut dengan cita-cita, keinginan.

Sering kali mendengar kalimat:
"Coba saya punya fasilitas seperti ..., saya pasti bisa ..."
"Mungkin kalau saya dapat dukungan ..., saya bisa mewujudkan ..."
"Jika saja saya tidak ada halangan ..., hal itu pasti sudah saya dapatkan."
dan seterusnya, dan seterusnya.

Mungkin harus ditekankan "Your dream is Your responsibility", stop menyalahkan keadaan, orang lain dan faktor eksternal lainnya atas sesuatu yang belum kamu capai.

Lebih baik tanyakan "Apa yang dapat saya lakukan untuk mencapai ..." - "Success depends on you asking the right questions".

Tidak selalu mudah, tidak selalu mulus, jika sudah mencoba walau belum berhasil, kita mendapat pembelajaran. Keep Trying, Keep Learning & Keep Improving.

Ada pepatah cina yang mengatakan "长的漂亮很重要, 活的漂亮更重要" (read: Zhang de piàoliang hěn zhòngyào, huó de piàoliang gèng zhòngyào), artinya It's important to look beautiful, and it's more important to live beautifully.

Ps: the Photo was taken at Capadocia, April 2013.

The Fear of Fear.

Decades ago, scientists experimented in the Arizona Desert, they built "Biosphere 2" - A large steel and glass enclosure with purified air, clean water, nutrient-rich soil, and lots of natural light.

It is intended to provide ideal living conditions for the flora and fauna in it.

The conditions worked in several ways but faced absolute failure in one.

Many times when the trees within the Biosphere reached a certain height, they would simply fall over.

At first, the phenomenon confused scientists. Eventually, they realised that the Biosphere lacked the most important element needed for trees to grow which was Wind.

In the natural environment, the trees are blown by the wind. They respond to the pressure and shaking by growing stronger bark and deeper roots to increase their stability.

We waste a lot of time and energy trying to stay in our own cosy bubble Biosphere.

Sometimes we fear the pressures and challenges of change, but those pressures and challenges are the wind that makes us stronger.

Or on the other hand, many also choose to give up and withdraw.

Then which one would you choose?

"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein.

Boost Your Confidence in 5 Minutes.

There are times when we lose ourselves, even though we already know what to do.

This sometimes happens when you want to do a presentation, facing a job interview or hard exams.

If you are a fan of the Grey's Anatomy series, maybe you remember a scene where Amelia Shepherd before going into the Operating Room to perform surgery on her mentor dr. Herman, you can see the snippet below.

https://youtu.be/cdNDa-cUrtM

Amelia Shepherd did the "Super Hero" pose to build her confidence before the major surgery.

The "Super Hero" pose is a "High Power" pose consisting of standing tall, legs apart, chin up, hands at waist with elbows bent.

This "High Power" pose was first introduced by Amy Cuddy in 2010, stating that by doing the "High Power" Pose for 5 minutes it can increase Testoterone and decrease Cortisol levels.

After knowing this simple method, many times I applied it together with taking a deep breath and then exhaling, it feels like I can conquer the World.

It's worth trying and doesn't cost a penny.

"Fight until you can't fight anymore". - Amelia Shepperd

Mission Possible.

Sometimes in setting targets, many say has to be realistic.

After taking a deep thought, "What does Realistic mean in this context?" "Does it mean something that can be achieved?"

Or "Does it mean something that has been achieved by someone else before?"

Sometimes setting a Target that is too high is considered Unrealistic and we afraid that the Target cannot be achieved.

In 2017, Alex Honnold shocked the world when he became the first person to climb a ropeless rock (Free Solo) - a nearly 3,000 feets climb to the top of the Legendary National Park, Yosemite's El Capitan. Honnold's remarkable feat was the subject of the award-winning documentary Free Solo.

In the film Honnold is asked How he controls himself knowing that when he does Free Solo, his choice is Perfection or Death.

"People talk about trying to suppress fear," he replied. "I tried to look at it in a different way - I tried to expand my comfort zone by practicing the movement over and over again. I tried to feel the fear until it wasn't scary anymore."

Honnold's fear prompted him to put in some focused effort before committing to Free Solo. Making his fears productive was an important part of his training, and it propelled Honnold to the top of the mountain.

If we can stop viewing stress and fear as negative and instead see the potential benefits, we are in the process of changing our relationship with fear.

Remember that what makes the target realistic is the amount of effort and skill to achieve it.

So want to set realistic or Fantastic target?

"Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you". - John C. Maxwell